I just read a discussion over at blogcatalog about “condoms vs. abstinence” for the prevention of STDs. Which is better?
The Question posed:
Suppose you were in charge of a health program to prevent transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) by promoting condom usage or abstinence, which would you choose?
I would set up a medical division that would present means of preventing the transfer of disease such as condoms.
I would then set up a family division that would work to persuade whoever would listen that their best bet is to abstain from sex until marriage.
Most of all, I would share the message of Jesus with people. Without life, hope, love, healing, and other internal resources, young people will tend to get involved with sex outside of marriage. It will never work to just say “don’t do it, it is bad.” Young people usually end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater and deciding that, to God, their sexuality is bad.
I want young people to read Song of Solomon (which is very passionate, romantic, and erotic in nature). It will give them something to look forward to, and help them to “not awaking love until it so desires” (i.e. – at the right time).
I was persuaded as a young person of the value of “waiting.” I had some of the internal resources that I needed but lacked others. I barely made it, but I made it.
Seeing sexuality God’s way, knowing who you are, experiencing unconditional love and acceptance – these are the kinds of things that will help a young person be strong and pure and then enjoy their sexuality to it’s fullest within marriage.