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The Non-Marriage Marriage

The Non-Marriage Marriage

I just read this article at

My daughter and her partner were married in 2004 and I couldn’t ask for a better spouse for my daughter, or daughter-in-law for me. However, my attitude traveling to the wedding was far different from my attitude on the trip home. God attends gay weddings. Who knew?

People have debated scriptures over the issues of gay marriage and homosexuality until they are red in the face—red because both sides are so angry.

When I asked a wise friend how she reconciled the scriptures with her daughter’s homosexuality, she said, “I can’t. So I just let God sort it out.” I took her advice and I learned things about God I would never have known if I were still telling Him what His scriptures mean.

If we spent as much time obeying God’s two greatest commandments, which are that we love Him and love our neighbors as ourselves, and less time policing everyone who is different from us, imagine what a world it would be.

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Here is the response that I posted:

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“When I hear terms like ‘God’s design’ and ‘Biblical marriage’ I have to wonder who decides these things.”

That is the heart of the question isn’t it. WHO decides these things?

I have often heard this argument: “there are so many different interpretations of the Bible” with an implied “therefore we should not try and interpret it rightly.”

Here is the basic traditional Protestant Christian Doctrine: The Bible is the standard of truth and ethics. We may struggle to understand it. We may debate what it means, but in the end it ACTUALLY MEANS SOMETHING whether we come to the right conclusion or not!

The Bible is the standard, not man’s interpretation of the Bible.

Who decides these things? God does, and he puts instructions in the Bible for us to understand. We can do our best to study but we have to start with the assumption that God is the judge of what is and is not true.

The first account of marriage in the Bible is about how a man leaves his mother and father and cleaves to his wife. One man. One woman. Family unit. Produces children. Vehicle for multiplication and dominion.

This was all in the context of “it is not good for a man to be alone.”

In other words: A one man, one woman family producing and training up children is the fundamental basic building block of society as God designed it!

We mess with this at our peril.

It is not love to say “no problem” to someone who rejects this and tries to replace it with a “same-sex” marriage. In fact, this is very practically a whole lot more like hate.

It is not love to tell someone who is destroying their own life and the lives of others and their potential in God that nothing is wrong.

Love says “God designed you – follow His design!”

Same-sex “marriage” cannot be love. In fact, it cannot be marriage. Even if we “legalize” it as a society. To say “same-sex marriage” is like saying “non-marriage marriage.”

This is what happens when we depart from Jesus Christ and His Word (The Bible) as the standard for truth and life – we become insane and speak nonsense and call it love.

Rewriting God’s World

Rewriting God’s World

“The earth is the Lord’s and everything in it, the world and all who live in it.” Psalms 24:1

That includes all human beings. That includes our bodies. That includes our sexuality.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 (Context – Genesis 1:26-28)

God made mankind, consisting of males and females.

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 (Context – Genesis 2:22-25)

God appointed marriage in the very beginning, before evil entered the world.

This is the way God made things. Fighting against it is futile.

In Exodus 34:6-7 God establishes His Character. He tells us what He is like. We can see that He is good. He is Gracious, Compassionate, Patient, Loving, Faithful, Forgiving, and Just.

Without a doubt, only God is qualified in both power and character to rule the universe that He has created. If He tells us something about ourselves, it is the truth and it is in our best interest to believe Him!

  • We are all made in His Image
  • We are each either male or female
  • We are designed to be united with one member of the opposite gender in a life long commitment of marriage. The purpose of this marriage is for procreation of the human race. The resulting family is the institution that God has given with the primary responsibility of creating, rearing, and teaching the next generation of human beings the ways of God.

Some in the world are raging against these realities. There is a scream of anger and control asserting “we will not accept your definitions God! We will not accept the roles and responsibilities that you have created for us.”

This is the height of folly. When the good, loving, kind and just Creator and Ruler of everything explains to us our design, wouldn’t it make more sense to joyfully accept these things?

To reject the two genders, to reject marriage as the union of a man and a woman, to reject our gender roles in the midst of these things – This is insanity.

A part of being reconciled to God is acknowledging Him as the Rightful Lord of both the Universe and Oneself. A part of accepting Him as Lord is deciding to trust that He knows what is best for us.

As the Creator it is God’s right to make us as He sees fit.

He made us to need oxygen. We will die without it!

He made us to need food. We will die without it!

He made the laws of physics. To defy them can lead to great pain and death.

Trying to define things as other than what they really are as appointed and created by God is arrogant and foolish!

There is no love in telling someone who has become confused about these things that they can define their own gender, their own sexuality, their own idea of marriage.

Yet it is possible that the American Psychiatric Association is going to do just that.

Susan Wright, spokeswoman with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, said her organization is eager to see changes made [in American Psychiatric Association diagnostic standards] concerning sexual issues such as cross-dressing and fetishes.

“We know it’s not a mental illness; it’s just a different way to have sex,” she said. “As long as it’s consensual and as long as you’re not harming someone, it should be perfectly fine.”  [Read More]

Human beings in their blindness have made up a new standard for sexuality: “as long as it’s consensual and … not harming someone.”

The irony is, it is impossible to desert God’s design without harming someone! When Wright speaks of something being “consensual” yet “not harming” she doesn’t appear to recognize this.

As mentioned earlier, in the same way that defying design in the area of physics will bring great harm, so will defying design in the area of morality and social order.

There is a great cry amongst some Christians to deal with these issues in a more compassionate way.

I agree that Believers in Jesus Christ should feel and act in compassion towards those who are confused and deceived about these things. I agree that Christians should remember their own stories before bludgeoning those who are still trapped in evil and darkness.

However we choose to manifest compassion and love to those who remain lost, it cannot include lying and encouraging people to live contrary to God’s design and purpose for them. This is neither compassion nor love – it is actually a harsh cruelty.

The world wants to Rewrite God’s World. A part of “Preaching the Gospel” in such a world is to tell the good news about God’s design for men and women, gender, sexuality, and family.

To speak and teach God’s Reality is love and compassion. Compromise is not.